Some people do many things well when they’re stressed. But feeling sexy usually isn’t one of them. Stress at work, home, or in relationships can happen to anyone. Learning how to handle it in a healthy way really helps. You can learn to relax when you are stressed, a counsellor or doctor can also help.
Problems with your partner
Problems with your partner are among the top sex-drive killers. For women, feeling close to our partner is a major part of desire. For both sexes, watch out for fights, poor communication, feelings of betrayal, or other trust issues. all these will negatively impact your sex life. If it’s proving difficult to get back on track, reach out to a couples counsellor.
A lot of people believe a drink makes you feel more open to sex. But too much alcohol can numb your sex drive. Being drunk may also be a turn-off for your partner. If you think you have a drinking problem, seek help. Before it kills your libido.
Too Little Sleep
If your sexiness seems missing, it could also be because you’re not getting enough sleep. Do you go to bed late or rise too early? Do you have trouble falling or staying asleep, or a condition such as sleep apnea? Anything that messes with a good night’s rest can mess with sex. Fatigue impacts sexy feelings. Work on your sleep habits.
Technically, you don’t lose your sex drive once you’re a parent. But it’ll probably be difficult finding time to be intimate with your partner with kids under foot. Hire help or get someone to watch your kids sometimes so that you and your partner can have some alone time. New baby? Try a quickie during baby’s nap time 😉
Poor Body Image
Feeling sexy is easier if you like how you look. Work on accepting your body as it is today, even if you’re working to get in shape. Feeling good about yourself can put you in the mood. If your partner has low esteem, assure them that you find them sexy.
For many women, their sex drive lowers tremendously around menopause. That’s partly because of symptoms like vaginal dryness and pain during sex. But every woman is different, and it’s possible to have a great sex life after menopause by tending to your relationship, self-esteem, and overall health.
Lack of Closeness
Sex without intimacy can kill desire. Intimacy is more than just sex. If your sex life is lacking spark, try spending more non-sexual time together, just the two of you. Talk, snuggle, massage one another. Find ways to express love without having sex. Getting closer can rebuild your sex drive.
Men with ED (erectile dysfunction) often worry about how they will be able to perform sexually, and that worry can drain their desire. ED is treatable. Couples can also find ways of keeping it from affecting their relationship. If you’d like to identify some symptoms of ED, read this.
Some drugs can tone down desire. Switching drugs or dosages may help so ask your doctor about that. But never stop taking any medicine on your own. Tell your doctor, too, if your sex drive stalls soon after you start taking a new drug. For a list of drugs that can affect libido, check here.
Culled from WebMD